Don't know what to say or do when someone you love is diagnosed with cancer? Here are some suggestions.

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Posted: Friday, October 18, 2013 5:14 pm | Updated: 5:36 pm, Fri Oct 18, 2013.

What can you do to help friends and loved ones who have been diagnosed with breast cancer.

Traci Willingham said just be there, her mother was diagnosed with stage-four breast cancer at the age of fifty-four. "Be supportive, let your mother or your friend or whoever it is that has the cancer know that they can come to you and and they can cry, and they can laugh and they can be angry."

Tony White's mother had a mastectomy. "Even though I was out of State I always called to make sure that she made her doctors appointments." And he added that humor helped them both get through it. "Sometimes you just need to laugh, you know when we deal with the things like that and it's the little thing that will help out like sending flowers."

Lynn Ryan said three women she works with at Florida Blue in Sarasota were all diagnosed, her advise. "Listen and be there for them. There's a lot of emotion that goes on."

Mary Redman is one of them. she has six kids, a husband and works full time.

"It's really scary to get that diagnosis." she said. Redman was Diagnosed at forty-three, she said, people by nature want to help, but don't be upset if your friend doesn't want to talk about her cancer. "I would say, do you want to discuss it, leave it up to them if they want to discuss it, if you change your mind, I'm here."

And don't be hurt if you offer help and you get an unexpected reaction, like anger or tears she said. "They're going through a lot of emotion, they're going to be overwhelmed with emotion. So just be prepared.

Medical Oncologist, Claudia Mallorino of Florida Cancer Specialists said, offer to accompany your friend. "Go with the patient to the appointment so that they have another set of ears and eyes."

Patients are under stress, so take pen and paper or net-book. She said, "Write your questions so when you get there and you're nervous you don't forget about what to ask."

Judy Lavalliere was diagnosed 2 years ago with stage-three breast cancer. She said, "I didn't want that pity look I'm gonna be dead tomorrow, I didn't want that, it drove me crazy. i just wanted hi how are you."

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